Aftercare That People with Penises Enjoy

5 tips to put the bada bing after the bada boom.

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“Do you prefer hard-erection blowjobs or soft-penis blowjobs?” I asked.

“I actually enjoy soft blowjobs better,” he replied.

This type of post-sex commentary is nothing new to us. He enjoys being tangled and wrapped around one another after sex. Snuggling, kissing, and sharing our hearts.

Neither of us shies away from challenging conversations in our daily lives, which is why the discussions we have after sex tend to be more tender. He gets to surrender his performative masculine conditioning. And I get to be a safe space for him to soften.

This is aftercare.

In the past, aftercare has been linked to BDSM, particularly in Dom/sub relationships. Primarily because of the intense emotional and physical highs and lows that often occur during a scene. But I am of the mind that aftercare is something that should be practiced regularly by everyone. Whether you are having kinky sex, vanilla sex, penetration-less sex, or dry-humping — aftercare should never be optional.

And penis owners are not the exception. They, too, experience the hormonal dip when sex is over. Following a particularly robust round of sex, coming down from the adrenaline-endorphin high can be intense for them, too.

With that in mind, here are 5 aftercare ideas that people with penises may enjoy: