Hey, Lost Your Erection? Here's Why It's Totally Normal and What to Do Next

Understanding the Ebb and Flow of Sexual Performance: Practical Tips to Navigate and Normalize Your Experience

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“Would you like to get on top,” he asked with an impish grin. He knows how much I love to ride, so I am more than happy to oblige.

At this point, we have been sexing for the better part of an hour. I spread a towel on the floor and invited him to lie down. Because the floor doesn’t give, it affords more leverage while I’m bouncing up and down.

I straddle his thighs before sliding his shaft between the folds of my labia, intent on awakening his sleeping penis and stroking the legs of my clitoris at the same time: two birds, one incredibly pleasurable stone.

His hands guide my hips toward him as our lips lock, and our tongues tangle. The ache of arousal builds inside me — I can feel the edge of orgasm nearing. But while his pelvis is thrusting toward mine and the energy of desire is enveloping his body — it seems his penis has not received the memo.

“It’s not hard enough,” he says without a hint of embarrassment. “That’s okay,” I reply with zero disappointment.

The sex continues for another half hour or more. His penis remains steadfastly flaccid, all while the rest of his body relishes in the throes of pleasure. But we don’t skip a beat — instead, we pivot.

“The sex keeps getting better, don’t you think?” he asks. “It really does,” I reply, meaning every word.