If Kissing Is so Intimate Why Do Couples in Loving Relationships Stop Doing It?

An Exploration into the Intimate Exchange of Kissing, Its Benefits, and How to Rekindle the Lost Art

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The first kiss was average, but the second one was electric.

His lips were soft and inviting; his touch sent a wave of pleasure through my body that I had never felt before.

I wanted him to keep going, but he pulled away too soon. Suddenly all I could think about was how much I wanted to feel those lips on mine again. All of my senses were alive, my heart raced, and warmth spread through me like fire.

This wasn’t just any kiss. It was powerful and intense and the beginning… of something beautiful. I wanted to stay in his arms forever and revel in the electric current flowing between us.

But duty called...

Our lips detached, and the taste of his mouth lingered on mine. I gave him a playful smile, knowing it would not be our last kiss —we’d only just begun.

Several years have passed since our inaugural (second) kiss. We have settled into a routine of love, intimacy, and deep connection. But we don't kiss as often.

Sure, there are plenty of pecks —upon waking, before leaving, before drifting off, and a smooch here and there in between —but sometimes our tongues don't touch for days. And when they do, it's like no time has passed.

A familiar shiver tickles my spine, gooseflesh pelt my skin, and we fall into a trance of tenderness that leaves me intoxicated like barrel-aged brown liquor.

When his lips meet mine and his tongue slivers into my mouth, I'm reminded of all the reasons I am madly, deeply, and truly, in love with him.

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A kiss is said to be the most intimate gesture of love between two people. But why, then, do so many couples in loving relationships stop doing it?