Is Masturbating an Insult When You’re in a Relationship?

Only if your partner takes it personally. 🤷🏾‍♀️

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I masturbate several times a week. I always have. Self-pleasure is part of my lifestyle. I also have enjoyable partnered sex as often as possible.

For me, masturbation is not something I do only when my partner is unavailable. I do it because I like it. And quite frankly, sometimes I do it because I need to.

My partner is not insulted by my solo-sex exploits. It’s something that is discussed and encouraged. I believe that self-pleasure is healthy. And it doesn’t take away from the pleasure I experience with my partner; quite the opposite. Being intimate with my body has enhanced shared sexual experiences because I can show my partner how to please me. And vice versa.

Masturbation can be a positive addition to the sexual connection you have with others. But not everyone feels this way. For some, masturbation can feel as threatening as a mistress or mister. It is often frowned upon, like infidelity. Although masturbation is sex with someone you can’t live without, it is a far cry from cheating.