Love and Sexual Exclusivity Are Two Very Different Things
We conflated the two. That was our first mistake.
We were sold the idea that loving someone means not wanting anyone else. That narrow, exclusive desire was natural. That your eyes, body, and fantasies will all line up neatly behind “the one.”
It’s no wonder that we are gutted when we discover that this isn’t true.
How did you find out?
Was it when the person you loved lost their tongue down someone else’s throat? Or when you accidentally fell on top of some genitalia that wasn’t attached to your beloved?
