Praise Kink: Exploring the Kink That’s so Nice, It’s Dirty
Praise Kink: Exploring the Kink That’s so Nice, It’s Dirty
Praise is often thought of as something nice but not necessarily sexual. But that’s not entirely true. 😉
“You’re such a good boy,” I said, fingering his hair. “You make me so happy.” He smiled up at me, his eyes filled with love and adoration.
We were in the midst of overindulging in carnal pleasure, and it was everything I’d hoped for.
He showered me with the physical touch that I crave, and in return, I gave him exactly what he wanted — praise.
“Did I do good?” he asked, nuzzling my neck.
“Yes, you lick me so well,” I replied, my voice dripping with honey. “I love it when you get me this wet.”
His erection seemed to double in size and firmness with every word spoken.
That night, for the first time in a long time, we came together and truly connected. It was intimate, beautiful, and deliciously satisfying.
In the world of kink, everything is fair game. You can enjoy, indulge, and explore whatever turns you on, no matter how vanilla or out-the-ordinary. And as kinks become more and more mainstream, we’re seeing all sorts of new and exciting things popping up—case in point: praise kink.
Praise is often thought of as nice but not necessarily sexual. But that’s not entirely true.
In fact, praise can be very titillating for some people — myself included.
What is a praise kink?
Praise kink is a relatively new-to-pop-culture kink that has been getting mainstream attention lately.
People who enjoy praise kink find being praised and worshipped by their partner to be a massive turn-on. It can be a form of role-play or a way to add a bit more ooo-la-la to playtime.
For some people, praise kink is all about the ego boost. They love feeling like they’re the center of attention and basking in the glow of their partner’s adoration. For others, it’s more about the physical act of being touched and worshipped. They love feeling their partner’s hands all over their body, exploring every inch of them as they receive lavish praise.
Whatever your reason for enjoying praise kink, there’s no doubt it can be a fun and incredibly sexy experience.
How can you tell if someone has a praise kink?
There are a few telltale signs that someone might enjoy praise kink. For starters, they might get turned on when their partner pays them compliments or otherwise showers them with praise. They might also enjoy being the center of attention and get a boost from knowing their partner is focused on them.
It’s also possible to be the one who enjoys doing the praising rather than being on the receiving end. If you want to praise your partner constantly, or you get a rush from making them feel good, then praise kink might be right up your alley.
What’s the difference between words of affirmation and a praise kink?
Most people enjoy being affirmed. Who doesn’t love hearing they’re doing a great job or looking amazing? But for people with a praise kink, words of affirmation are sexually arousing. They might get lost in the moment and feel wholly consumed by their partner’s praise.
People with praise kinks experience a physiological reaction to being praised. Their bodies respond to being worshiped with words like they would if they were physically touched. In other words, for them, praise may result in a raging erection or a W.A.P. (wet ass pussy).
Here are a few examples of praise kink in action:
Your partner tells you how hot you look in that new outfit and how they can’t wait to take it off you.
Your partner gives you a massage, and as they touch you, they tell you how strong and capable you are.
Your partner whispers how much they love you and how lucky they are to be with you.
As you can see, praise kink can take many different forms. It all depends on what gets you going!
Doms love praise play.
In the world of D/s, praise kink can be a training tool for new submissives. A dom can help their sub learn to accept and enjoy praise by showering them with it during sex or play. This can be a great way to model what brings the Dom pleasure and what doesn’t. This is especially true for Doms, who appreciate soft domination.
How to get started with praise kink
If you’re interested in exploring praise kink, you can start by discussing it with your partner.
Talk about what interests you and what turns you on if they’re open to trying it out; great! If not, that’s OK too. You can always enjoy praise kink on your own by complimenting yourself or talking kindly to yourself in the mirror.
If you are single or in an open or ethically non-monogamous relationship, perhaps you can explore your praise kink with someone else if you’re partner is not into it. There are plenty of people out there who would love to indulge in your praise kink, and they may or may not be interested in meeting in person. That’s one of the great things about praise play. It can be done remotely via text, chat, or even video call!
Praise kink is a fun and naughty way to add spice to your sex life. Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end, something is sure to get you going.
Adding praise kink to your sexy toolbox
If you think praise kink sounds hot (and let’s be honest, who doesn’t?), there are plenty of ways to incorporate it into your life.
One way is to start paying closer attention to the praise you give your partner. Instead of saying, “Good job,” try to be more specific about what you enjoyed. For example, “I loved how you used your tongue on me last night” or “I appreciated how well you listened and touched me in all the right places.”
Praise can also be incorporated while you’re getting busy. Let your partner know, in real-time, how good they’re making you feel. Narrating your response to what they’re doing while they’re doing it will increase their arousal and your pleasure in one fell swoop.
Finally, you can use praise to show your partner how much you love and appreciate them. A simple “I love you” can go a long way, but adding praise can make it even more special.
It’s always about communication.
Whether you’re fucking or simply relationship-ing on a Tuesday afternoon, communication is vital. If you’re unsure what a praise kink might look like in your relationship, ask your partner! Talk about what you like and don’t like, and be sure to give feedback along the way. The more you talk about it, the easier it will be to get exactly what you want.
Get curious about why some types of praise are more arousing than others. Perhaps you and your partner can list words and phrases that turn you on. This can be a fun way to start the conversation about sex and desires in and out of the bedroom.
Use your mouth or your fingers.
I want to reiterate that praise kink does not have to be done in person. You don’t have to speak at all. Praise play can be just as effective and arousing via text.
This is one instance where something you would have said aloud may be even more impactful in text.
Think about it: when was the last time you told your partner how amazing they are in bed? Perhaps it’s something you’ve been meaning to say but haven’t had the chance. Praise kink is about showering your partner with compliments and adoration before, during, and after sex. Yes, praise kink can be a delicious form of aftercare.
And if you praise your partner by text message, they can read it again and again. So by the time you’re in the same room, the sexual tension will be so thick you can cut it with a butter knife!
Foreplay could last all day long. Then, of course, there’s the rush you’ll get from knowing that you keep your partner on edge —even when you’re not around.
Mmmmm….
Conclusion
So there you have it! Whether you’re looking to add a little seasoning to sexy time or are just curious about this growing trend, I hope this post has helped shed some light on the subject.
As always, communication is critical when trying anything new in the bedroom (or anywhere else), so be sure to talk to your partner about what you’re both comfortable with.
And who knows? You might find that praise kink is the dirty little secret that takes your sex life to the next level!
Do you enjoy praise kink? What are your thoughts on this growing trend? Let us know in the comments!
