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Sexual Seasons: Why Changes in Sex Drive Doesn't Mean the End of Sex

How to Navigate (and Celebrate) the Evolution of Sexuality After 40

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Stacey Herrera
Feb 19, 2025
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"I don’t think I like sex anymore,” she confided. “It doesn't feel like it used to. That urgency... it's just gone.”

These are the kinds of conversations I have with my clients, by the way.

I smiled because —been there. A lot of us have.

But for the record– your sexuality isn't dying —it's evolving. And that evolution is sexy AF.

Naturally, you don’t have the same energy you had when you were 20. And you probably don’t crave that boxed wine you chugged in college, either.

So why do we feel panic when our sexuality shifts into a different season?

The Seasons of Your Sexuality

Just like nature, our sexuality moves through distinct phases - each with its own gifts and challenges…

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