Waning Desire, off Duty Libido, and the Law of Diminishing Returns
There's a point at which more sex will not make you happier or improve your relationship.
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I used to be a serial dater, and I loved it. I loved the attention, the flirtation, the newness of it all. But I also craved the stability of doing normal shit.
I longed to sit naked on the couch, snuggled in a blanket, binge-watching predictable dramas, and eating kettle chips and Trader Joe's candy-coated milk chocola…
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