This year, I intend to prioritize self-pleasure. I’m not just talking about masturbation. I’m also talking about leaning into joy, doing things that light me up, and prioritizing my creativity.
These are not things that require my partner’s participation, but my partner is benefiting. Our sex life is more alive than it’s been in years.
Our cuddles have been more intimate. We are kissing more and flirting more.
I actually haven’t been masturbating much more than before, but even that small increase has made a difference. But the change in our connection has been monumental.
But it isn’t just because of my intention. My partner made some intentions of his own. But the biggest shift is that each of us is more receptive.
In case you were wondering how long it took to notice a difference, the answer is immediate.
There is a newness that we’re both experiencing.
That’s the thing about long-term relationships; patterns and routines make our lives easier.
Our brains love to automate things because it makes life easier, but routine is also the antithesis of desire.
Desire needs novelty.
That doesn’t mean that you have to break up and start over. Sometimes a tweak can be as simple as setting an intention and following through.
Getting your favorite piece of sex furniture re-stuffed.
Upgrading your mattress pad.
Getting busy before sunrise instead of after sunset.
Simple tweaks. Big payoff.
That’s the conversation for this week’s episode.
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