I mean, it kind of makes sense to stop seeing your partner if you feel safe and comfortable. You notice threats, your energy is wired to that to keep you alive. But we can make choices to still 'see' our life partners.
You hit the nail right on the head, Nemo! Are nervous systems are wired to self-preserve, so we notice upset. But when things are humming along, we literally stop seeing the forest for the trees. Practicing presence can keep us in the room.
I mean, it kind of makes sense to stop seeing your partner if you feel safe and comfortable. You notice threats, your energy is wired to that to keep you alive. But we can make choices to still 'see' our life partners.
You hit the nail right on the head, Nemo! Are nervous systems are wired to self-preserve, so we notice upset. But when things are humming along, we literally stop seeing the forest for the trees. Practicing presence can keep us in the room.
I so appreciate your insights!