I’m Stacey Herrera, and I talk about sex and relationships in real life, sans the shame and the hype.
If you’re here, you’re probably past 40. Your body is changing. Your desire is shifting. And your relationships are getting more complicated.
Nobody prepared you for what sex and intimacy would look like at this stage of life.
Sex in Real Life is a weekly podcast and Substack for grown-grown folks who want honest conversations about intimacy, desire, and relationships after 40.
The podcast is free here and on your favorite platform. New episodes publish weekly.
What we talk about here
Around these parts, we dive into the things that people blush to say out loud:
Why desire zigs and zags.
Why long-term relationships start to feel stale.
What happens when bodies do unexpected things.
Why sex gets complicated after illness or betrayal.
How resentment becomes a third partner.
Why leaving can be excruciating, even when it’s for the best.
No Cosmo tricks. No self-help jargon. No pretending this stuff is simple.
What to expect if you subscribe
Real experience. Straight talk. Sprinkled with heart + humor.
You’ll find:
• Essays rooted in real-life experiences
• Language for conversations you’ve been avoiding
• Honest looks at long-term partnership, grief, boredom, curiosity, and change
• Practical insight you can put to good use
When you subscribe to the FREE plan, you get…
• Weekly podcast episodes
• Occasional essays delivered to your inbox
• Updates on new projects
When you subscribe to the PREMIUM plan, you get…
• Full access to the essay archive
• Longer, deeper pieces on complicated sexual and relationship dynamics
• Early access to mini-courses and experiments
• Support for this independent project
Why does this cost money?
Because honest, thoughtful writing about sex and relationships takes time.
By becoming a paid subscriber, you are supporting independent work that is not built to please advertisers or sanitize adult conversations.
I also want this work to stay accessible, so discounts and financial aid are available when needed.
If you are ready for smarter conversations about sex, intimacy, and relationships after 40, you are in the right place.
Join as a free or paid subscriber.
Love,
Stacey Herrera💋
P.S. Got Q’s? Reach me at hello@sexinreallife.com
