I’m Stacey Herrera, and sex and relationships have fascinated me since I read Judy Blume’s Forever as a tween. My mother would call me “endlessly inquisitive,” though her exact words were probably “nosy.”
I bring the same curiosity to this stack.
Sex in Real Life is for grown-grown folks (40+) who want better sex and smarter relationships. I write about the stuff nobody covered in sex ed and your parents definitely didn’t explain — ED, dead bedrooms, kink, mismatched desire, and what happens when bodies change and things don’t work the way they used to.
I’m not a certified sex educator. I’m someone who’s comfortable saying the things that make some folks shudder.
What to expect if you subscribe:
Honest conversations about sex and intimacy that you’ve been wanting to have but didn’t know how to start.
Essays that open with real stories and get into practical, specific content you can actually use…. like soft penis techniques, how to talk about what you want, navigating sex in aging bodies, the emotional labor of really great sex.
No Cosmo tricks. No self-help jargon. Just the messy, sometimes hilarious, but always hopeful parts of connection that never make the highlight reel.
When you subscribe to the FREE plan, you get:
Occasional essays delivered straight to your inbox
Weekly podcast episodes
When you subscribe to the PAID plan, you get:
Full access to all essays and archives
Deeper dives into practical sexual content
First access to new projects and resources
Why does Sex IRL cost money?
Because creating honest, well-researched content about sex takes time, and this work deserves to be valued.
By becoming a paid subscriber, you’re investing in your intimate life. You’re also supporting independent work that isn’t beholden to advertisers who get squeamish about explicit content.
I strive to make Sex IRL accessible to everyone, so discounts and financial aid are available for those who need it.
Ready to invest in better sex and smarter relationships? Become a paid subscriber today.
Ready to invest in better sex and smarter relationships? Become a free or paid subscriber!
See what all the fuss is about and join the Sex IRL community!
Love,
Stacey Herrera💋
P.S. Got Q’s? Reach me at hello@sexinreallife.com
