I have been endlessly fascinated by sexuality and relationships since I read Judy Blume's Forever when I was a tween. My mother would describe me as endlessly inquisitive, although her exact language would probably be "nosy."

And I bring that same curiosity to this Substack.

I'm here to explore the complex and ever-changing aspects of human sexuality with an eye toward fun, humor, inclusivity, and compassion. I firmly believe that sex should be embraced wholeheartedly – not shied away from or viewed as taboo.

This space will provide a safe and open platform for discourse, where I'll unpack topics that regular seasoned folks like you and me encounter in real life.

We'll explore the why, when, and how of sex and its impact on relationships.

In short, this Substack is all about celebrating and exploring the wonders of human sexuality and aging.

It's not just a place for spewing facts or useless advice – I aim to create a space that encourages honest dialogue regardless of your background or experience. Whether you're less experienced or a veteran of the game, I'm here to spill the beans.

Why does Sex IRL cost money?

Most people think that sex is something you get for free. But what if I told you that having an amazing sex life actually requires an investment of time, energy, and money?

That's why I created Sex IRL. I believe that investing in sexual health and pleasure is worth it – just like investing in other aspects of your life – and I want to provide the tools and knowledge to help you do that.

By becoming a paid subscriber, you're investing in yourself: gaining access to exclusive resources about sex, improving communication with partners, understanding your body better, and exploring what's possible when it comes to intimacy.

You're also supporting an independent publication that provides honest sex education and reliable advice. Plus, we'll have some podcast interviews with guests who share their perspectives and experiences.

I strive to make Sex IRL accessible to everyone, so discount offers and financial aid for those who need it are available.

At the end of the day, if you're looking for a comprehensive guide to understanding your sexuality and making sure your sex life is a fulfilling one, Sex IRL is worth the investment. I’m here to help you make the most out of your sexual experiences – and that starts with investing in yourself and your pleasure.

Ready to take the plunge? Become a paid subscriber today!

See what all the fuss is about and join the Sex IRL community!


Stacey Herrera💋
Founder & Editor-in-Chief of Sex IRL

P.S. There are a limited number of scholarship subscriptions available. To inquire, contact me at hello@sexinreallife.com

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