A huge chunk of what happens during sex is filtered through how we see our bodies. How they look, what we’ve been told, comparisons, criticisms, and all the ways we’ve been picked apart.
We think we’re making conscious decisions about sex —timing, desire, energy, yeses, and noes. But most of us are responding to the stories running in the background.
This belly’s too big.
My penis isn’t hard.
When did these breasts get down here?
We’re fighting the compulsion to shrink when we’re being looked at. The instinct to cover up. The urge to redirect attention away from ourselves.
If you are in a season of acceptance. Congratulations.
If not, maybe you stay present for a few more seconds next time. Maybe you don’t pull away right away. Maybe you give yourself a little more room to be.
A few seconds becomes a few minutes. Then a few minutes becomes the whole thing.
Maybe not today… but eventually.
In this week’s episode, we explore how your relationship with your body shapes your capacity for pleasure. And what might be possible if it softens.
Listen here (up there 👆🏾) or wherever you get your podcasts.
If this resonated with you, share the link with a friend
or, even better, with your partner.
