There’s this thing your partner does in bed that you don’t love.
You don’t hate it, not necessarily, but you’re not into it.
But you’ve never said a word.
It’s not dramatic. It’s probably small. A touch that feels like sandpaper. The rhythm is off. Maybe something you’ve outgrown.
Still, you say nothing. Instead, you adjust a little. Offer a subtle redirect. Perhaps you just let it happen and tell yourself it’s not worth making it a thing.
Staying quiet is easier. No muss, no fuss.
You probably don’t think of this as avoidance. The relationship is good. The sex isn’t terrible. Your partner loves you. Of that you’re sure. That’s why the silence feels harmless. Why make a big deal when everything is mostly fine?
The sex keeps happening. It’s functional and familiar.
But you’re a little less there every time.
Eventually, your appetite for sex starts to thin. Not all at once. Gradually. And you don’t say anything about that either
This week’s episode explores the habit of quietly accepting what doesn’t work for you in bed. And what’s going on in the gap between the sex you’re having and what you really desire.
Research shows that partners only know about 62% of what the other person enjoys sexually.
This conversation is about the other 38%.
Listen here (up there 👆🏾) or on your favorite platform.
