Sometimes long-term love gets heavy.
After a while, romance is no longer the ignition switch. Perpetual motion sets in. Infrastructure and routine keep things mostly humming along.
They know where the extra batteries are. You remember they had that weird allergic reaction to cheap tequila. And they clock that inflection in your voice when you’re pretending to be “fine.”
And then there are the things that grate on your last nerve.
The way they chew potato chips with their mouth wide open. I mean, you could drive a train through that tunnel.
But you’re not without flaws yourself.
They complain about the sopping wet towels you leave on the floor, the clumps of toothpaste in the sink, and how every crumb always leads them back to you.
These minor irritations can chafe the hell out of your hide. But they might also make you horny AF.
Sounds ridiculous, right? Unless you understand how annoyance moves through the body.
It wakes you the hell up.
Suddenly, your attention is on point.
Your nervous system is in go mode.
And you become acutely aware of what they’re working with ⇣ down there.
In LTRs, awareness is one of the first things to go.
Yeah, they don’t talk much about that, which is why we’re expecting attraction to vamoose, while being completely flummoxed by the out-of-left-field turn-on.
Yes, domesticity can pummel erotic energy into a pancake. But sometimes irritation is a leaven.
Suddenly, this person, your person, who infuriates the shit out of you, activates your turn on, right after you tripped over their big fucking left shoe.
No conflict is not sexy, and dysfunction is not secretly hot. But sometimes…
In this week’s episode, we are talking about how the things that make you roll your eyes might make you want to jump your boo’s bones an hour later.
Yeah, it’s totally a thing.
Listen here (up there 👆🏾) or on your favorite platform.
