A long time ago, I remember going to a seminar and the speaker said, “Every yes lives in the land of no.”
And I thought… Yeah, unless we’re talking about love, sex, or relationships.
Because let’s be clear, with love, sex, and relationships, “no” feels like rejection. And nobody wants to be rejected, am I right?
It’s not just that rejection makes us feel a way. We are bad at handling it (on both sides).
If you are the one saying no or not feeling the other person, odds are you’re being ambiguous.
And if you’re the one on the receiving end of not-right-now or misalignment, you might respond aggressively (that includes passive-aggressiveness, BTW).
Why though?
Why is it hard to liberate someone from expectations?
Why do we struggle to accept someone’s choice?
In this episode, we’re digging into rejection. Not so much how to be clear and direct with your nos (we’ll get into that in a future episode).
Today, we’re talking about why we hitch someone else’s no to our worth. And how fear of rejection gets in the way of leaning in.
What if most of what you’re calling rejection isn’t rejection at all?
Let’s get into it.
Listen here (up there 👆🏾) or on your favorite platform.
