You think you’ve moved on because you changed your emergency contact. But then you hold your breath whenever your partner sighs.
When the price of admission in your previous relationship was guilt and a scoreboard, healthy love feels like a setup.
You’re accustomed to looking for the fine print. Genuine gestures can feel like a Trojan horse. You brace yourself for the invoice that tells you how much that kindness is going to cost you.
We think of healing as a clean break, but it’s more like a recalibration. The beat of silence between the trigger and the knee-jerk response. It’s noticing when your “spidey-senses” start tingling when there’s no threat or danger.
The work isn’t finding someone new who isn’t about that score-keeping life. It’s learning to trust that the invoice isn’t coming.
This week’s episode is personal. I’m getting into how the past shapes the present. And how sometimes, flowers are just flowers.
Listen here (up there 👆🏾) or on your favorite platform.
