The people who love you may not actually want to know you. Because the real you makes them uncomfortable.
Sit with that for a second.
Social media will have you believing that authenticity is a virtue we all share. But that’s not true. In our most intimate relationships, we are still struggling to be ourselves.
Because we learn early, often before language, that being our true selves comes with consequences. And so we edit, shift, and morph. Sharing only the easy-to-digest parts that won’t risk the connection.
And it feels shitty. Because faking it doesn’t always lead to making it.
In marriages and long-term relationships, it gets even more convoluted. Most of us don’t check in to see who our person is becoming. We’re too busy relating to who they were or who we expect them to be. And when they show up as someone else, we feel threatened.
If you’ve been feeling the tension between wanting to be seen and wanting to feel safe, this week’s episode goes deeper into it.
Listen here (up there 👆🏾) or on your favorite platform.
